January is “No Complaints” month and I have discovered a few things about myself and others as we approach the halfway mark of the month.
1. People complain a lot.
There is the less common full on complaints where someone may be getting all worked up and openly letting it rip over someone or something. Than there is the very common complaints where it is almost a form of conversation. I work in a busy office with a variety of people coming in and no matter what the weather is like someone’s got a complaint about it. When it’s raining… “Oh this rain! I wish we could just get some sunshine.” When its sunny… “Ohhh it is soooo cold outside. I can’t stand it.”
I am sure in a lot of these cases that people don’t actually feel this way but its a topic to fill the silence with as well as a conversation openner. Part of my resolution, though, is to reply with a positive stance on the subject .. “Yes it is a little chilly but we are blessed to have the sunshine.” or to not engage in these types of conversations at all.
2. My internal complaints are more abundant than I ever realized.
This was a surprise and I am happy to have my own positive Mantra to repeat when I those old patterns start to stir even when its something small. I feel like this is an important step to changing my habits because that small inner complaint can easily change to an outward behavior.
3. Not complaining as almost made the act seem trivial. My life is full wealth in its various form… love, happiness, beauty. However, the biggest struggle remains in the work place where the majority of my complaining takes place. Yes, it still seems trivial to complain but I have a harder time stopping the ripple of those types of thoughts since I am slightly encouraged by co-workers. In the end, however, it is solely my choice and my responsibilty and I will continue to put in the work.
I feel lucky that I am in an environment where I can practice these things and hopefully move closer to becoming a better me for me and a better person for everyone.
Its that time again. New year resolution time. We have all done it at least once before. Wrote out a list on a sheet of paper or out in our head. Maybe its just one thing and maybe is 20 things that you want to accomplish in the next year. Eat better, drink less, be kinder to others.
The resolution is easy to make but tough to keep.
The toughest part for me is sticking with something for an entire year. Most of the time I will forget any resolution I have set by the time March rolls around or have moved on to a new goal or changed my outlook. Thats life right?! And I enjoy life. A lot. I would even think as I was eating the most delicious piece of chocolate cake and then .. BAM! Shit, didn’t I resolve that I wasn’t going to eat this kind of stuff this year? Oops. Oh, and there comes the guilt which in turn just leads to more chocolate cake. Oh, well.
Well, this year I don’t want to “oh, well” and I also don’t want to set arbitrary resolutions that don’t really end in me becoming a better person. In yoga I am always setting intentions and with those clear intentions I do create positive change in my life and feel the happiness of those achievements. Even simple things like breathing more deeply lead me to greater goals and better feelings towards myself and others. So my resolution for 2013 is a new intention every month. Why? Because as time moves forward we change, we adapt, and our goals change. I feel like this kind of resolution is going to allow me to grow and move closer to spreading the love I know I am capable of cultivating not only towards myself but also for all those around me. Eliminating the judgement and expectation that sometimes resolutions create.
January : No complaining
My goal for this month is to stop the habit of complaining about things as a form of conversation as well replace my internal complaints with a positive mantra. I hope that my positive intention can spread to others.
I have made a list of possible resolutions for the next few months but will decide on one closer as the next approaches based on what is going on in my life and what I think I need to bring inward and what I may be ready to let go of.
I always encourage others to share their resolutions as well as thoughts on my own. Share, explore, and unite.