February has been “no cellphone in social situations and no ipod while making my way from place to place” month. The second of 12 resolutions for the year. Although its not the end of the month I already feel as though I have failed. That being said, part of the reason I decided to take on resolutions in a new way was in order to let go of the failure side of things that I have always experienced in the past when my resolution didn’t exactly go as planned. So to keep with a positive spin I have decided to focus on my triumphs.
Despite my difficulties shedding away my cellphone habits I have stopped listening to my ipod while walking, on the bus, or in social situations. It wasn’t easy at first since I have been in the habit of turning my music or a podcast on before I head out anywhere, especially if I am walking long distances (which is often). I do feel as though it has helped me to tune into the sounds of the world around a little bit more as well as interact more often with people passing by. I’ve had conversations with people on the bus and quick laughs with strangers in a coffee shop. I am sure most or all of these experiences wouldn’t have taken place if I had had my earphones in.
As for my cellphone… I have broken the habit of taking my phone everywhere with me. If I am heading down the street to grab lunch I leave it on my desk. It stays hidden in my bag the whole time when I am out to dinner with friends, and any meeting of friends.
The part that I feel as though I failed is still using it and looking at it throughout my work day, glancing at it on my walk to and from work, or while I am on the bus. Although it appears normal and ingsignificant I believe these small things add up to an unessessary use of my phone aiding in removing me from the act of engaging with people or places around me.
So what now? Keep it in practice from now on. Awareness of my electronic expectations, separations, and limitations. March is approaching along with the next resolution.
What has been your resolution experience thus far in 2013?
The first month of my year of resolutions went good. January was no complaining and although I most definitely complained about this and that I feel the overall benefit of putting that intention forward. Not only did it help me to change some of my inner negative talk but it also influenced others. Even my partners cousins adapted “No complaining” for their own household for the year which I found very inspiring.
Now we enter into February. Where I intend to unplug from my cell phone and ipod and tune into the sounds of the world around me. This means no cellphone in social situations and no ipod while making my way from place to place. There were a few things that motivated this as the choice for February. (Also lets move forward without judgement and instead interest)
1. My boyfriend is constantly on his phone. When we are hanging out at home, when we are walking down the street, in a Car2Go, waiting for a movie to start, and out for dinner. Most of the instances didn’t really bother me but when he spent more time looking at his phone than at me during dinner I started to get impatient about it.
2. I am not really on my phone that much but I am constantly looking at my phone. I don’t know what exactly I am looking for but all day long I gaze at my phone seeing if my little red “message” light is flashing. If it is I will check to see what email or text I may have received. If its not, I will look again in 10 seconds. Also I don’t like to go ANYWHERE without my phone. It is generally within arms reach and I even take it with me on the 15 minute break from work to go and get some take-out.
3. I want to turn off my ipod and turn on my hearing. There are a couple reasons I want to include the ipod. If I am walking, it is always on playing whatever tickles my fancy at that particular moment. This is something I have always loved. Walking, or travelling with music. I have had many magical moments this way where I am often brought to tears by the beauty of the world around me and the power of a song. But I feel as though I am missing out on the sounds of birds, trees in the wind, and people passing by. Also, unfortunately one of my motivations is slightly rooted in fear. I work early most mornings and I up hours before the sun starts peeking its way on to the world. I had a thought that if anyone in those early morning walks wanted to follow me and/or attack me I may not hear it coming.
I am hoping that this will bring me closer to the world as well those around me. In our ever struggle to connect more with others through the internet we are indvertantly disconnecting from people in the ‘real world’. I don’t want it to be considered strange to chat with a stranger or smile at the people passing me by as I walk from place to place. I want to hear more stories of the world in hopes to cultivate more love and less seperation.