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December Giveaway

Here it is. A whole year of resolutions coming to an end. I can’t believe that I have made it this far and have learned so much from offering myself 12 different goals for 2013. Choosing resolutions in this way has removed the guilt, the shame, and the disappointment.  Of course it wasn’t all fun and games and there have challenges and judgements towards myself and others. But through those rough weeks and more difficult resolutions I have found my rhythm of self-improvement and I feel strong and capable and better able to achieve goals on the road to being a better individual for myself, my family, and my community.

In case you haven’t been along for the whole ride her is a list of 2013’s Year of Resolutions:

January No Complaining- pretty simple.. no complaining

February Unplugging from electronics – no cellphone or ipods in social situations

March Compliments – Giving 5 compliments a day

April Writing – Journaling everyday

May Goddess Appreciation – Loving and honoring all women and letting go of jealousy and judgement

June Truths – Only speaking the truth to myself and others

July Sugar-free – No refined sugar of any kind

August Strangers – To speak to more stranger.. cultivate more friendships

September Reflection – To spend the month in reflection about my Burning Man experience and goals for the future

October No Alcohol – No drinking alcohol of any kind

November Clean up – Picking up one or more pieces of garbage on the ground each day

giving december

Its not totally over yet though…. in honor of the Christmas Spirit as well as the all powerful Burning Man principles we decided that December is to be the month of giving. Today is the 12th and we have already spent these past 11 days giving as best we can. Here are some of the ways we have offered gifts:

Making sandwiches for the hungry souls that we pass on the way to work

Giving change to familiar faces holding up a cup

Buying a friend a drink

Giving compliments to co-workers

Gifting myself a day of rest and recovery

Bringing the whole office chocolate bars

Giving students an extra long savasana with neck massage

Sending our sponsor-child a Christmas present

It doesn’t always have to be a monetary offering nor does it have to be big and lavish. It is just about taking the time to give to someone as well as cultivating the awareness that giving to each other can happen all year round. It is fun to be creative and wake up in the morning thinking… “What can be my gift today” till eventually I don’t think that at all and giving becomes a natural side-effect of moving through the world. We don’t need to have an ‘excuse’ or an event. We can just give.

“For it is in giving that we receive.”
― St. Francis of Assisi

Thank you to all the people who helped me in this year long journey. Those who gave me ideas, inspiration, and encouragement. It has been an amazing challenge.  2014 is coming. Time moves swiftly and it is beautiful.

Giving and Receiving Openly

 christmas-present

As Christmas quickly approaches I got to thinking a lot about giving and receiving.

 

My awareness of being able to receive openly became noticed when my wonderful partner had a hard time excepting my compliments. It got me thinking about who else had this same challenge. I spent the next few days complimenting friends and family and out of the 5 people I gave compliments and gratitude towards 4 turned it down. Instead of saying thank you it was returned with a negative about themselves.

 

On the subject of give I thought back. I have always been a “giver”. People that are drawn to health professions usually are. I found I gave so much when I was working in that setting that I often felt drained and unable/unwilling to give in other situations with family and friends. I also got the sense that as the giver I was entitled to a reward for it. At work my reward was praise so in my relationships I expected the same thing for my giving nature. Because of this I generally was left feeling disappointed and angry when I wasn’t rewarded or appreciated for my efforts. Not good for anyone.

When I began to understand gratitude in its purest form the act of giving and receiving became a gift in itself. I stopped expecting to receive and enjoying to give. It also opened me to be more aware of the gifts that I receive each day like a smile from a stranger or a simple thanks from a friend. I realized that it truly goes both ways. The universe and our energetic body craves balance so learn to except, appreciate, and receive these gifts openly and feel the fullness of wanting to give back.

Practice:

The Heart Chakra अनाहत, Anāhata Oh the heart. Since I could write endlessly about the importance of the heart chakra I will keep it simple. A lotus flower with 12 petals is the visual for this chakra. The element is air and the sense is touch. Balancing the ethereal with the physical as well as linking the lower 3 chakra points with the higher 3. This is the center for our compassion and trust as well as giving and receiving (ah, there it is). When our heart is closed or dense feelings of distrust arise as well as unable to receive. You May feel resentful or attached to things in the past. Other the other side when our heart is too open you pour out all of that energy in the desire to help others leaving nothing for yourself. So how do we balance?

 

1. Asana: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rn6fr2FYW_Q  or  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=boVUNSPlDko&feature=related

 

2. Meditation: I found this lovely posting on a meditation on giving and receiving. http://quantumtouch.groupee.net/eve/forums/a/tpc/f/9951095891/m/5491049162 One day soon I will record my own.

 

3. Practice the act of giving and receiving during the holidays. Notice how your thoughts and emotions towards the acts change or develop.

Good luck. We are all deserving.

Namaste xo

Carly

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