January is “No Complaints” month and I have discovered a few things about myself and others as we approach the halfway mark of the month.
1. People complain a lot.
There is the less common full on complaints where someone may be getting all worked up and openly letting it rip over someone or something. Than there is the very common complaints where it is almost a form of conversation. I work in a busy office with a variety of people coming in and no matter what the weather is like someone’s got a complaint about it. When it’s raining… “Oh this rain! I wish we could just get some sunshine.” When its sunny… “Ohhh it is soooo cold outside. I can’t stand it.”
I am sure in a lot of these cases that people don’t actually feel this way but its a topic to fill the silence with as well as a conversation openner. Part of my resolution, though, is to reply with a positive stance on the subject .. “Yes it is a little chilly but we are blessed to have the sunshine.” or to not engage in these types of conversations at all.
2. My internal complaints are more abundant than I ever realized.
This was a surprise and I am happy to have my own positive Mantra to repeat when I those old patterns start to stir even when its something small. I feel like this is an important step to changing my habits because that small inner complaint can easily change to an outward behavior.
3. Not complaining as almost made the act seem trivial. My life is full wealth in its various form… love, happiness, beauty. However, the biggest struggle remains in the work place where the majority of my complaining takes place. Yes, it still seems trivial to complain but I have a harder time stopping the ripple of those types of thoughts since I am slightly encouraged by co-workers. In the end, however, it is solely my choice and my responsibilty and I will continue to put in the work.
I feel lucky that I am in an environment where I can practice these things and hopefully move closer to becoming a better me for me and a better person for everyone.